Another Send Off

            Today is another send off party. The tenth I have attended in two years. A few others were missed because of distance and conflicts.

            For each event, family and friends dressed up to attend. Many wore colorful dresses and shirts. Others in black dresses and suits were more subdued. All went to celebrate the guest of honor.

            Hugs abounded. Groups of guests visited until the celebration began.

            At every event, the guest of honor was missing.  Each one had already left.

            With mixed feelings, I attended each memorial service. Because of my losses and loneliness, I concentrated more on the void left by their deaths.  From my grief, I knew what was ahead for the survivors and felt pain for them.

            A few weeks ago, I attended a memorial for a friend who left us way too early. Praises and music filled the huge sanctuary as family and friends celebrated her life. Never had I encountered such an exuberant send off. Story after story honored her and her walk with Jesus.

             I realized my mindset needed to change. I needed to rejoice because they were no longer in pain and agony. They didn’t have to deal with the hardships and tragedies of this world. They left us for a better place. Those who knew Jesus are rejoicing with Him in heaven.

            During my grieving process, I have been enveloped and comforted by the Holy Spirit often through the arms and lives of other people. Being joyful for those who have passed away doesn’t erase the grief but makes it more manageable.

But the Counselor, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, will teach you all things and will remind you of everything I have said to you. Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.   John 14: 26-27 NIV

Loving Father,  comfort me as I grieve and help me rejoice for those who have left to join you. Amen